Can't Stop Thinking About This Person

I have soul connection to my ex husband. I think kind of like you. I care for him. But cannot be with him. He is a druggie, drunk and womanizer. I still care for him.

I stumbled on your story, which somehow similar to my own experience. Like you, I met that special person six years ago. Things moves so fast. All happened online. Just more than two months later, the relationship somehow just ended. Few things happened. So... After couple of months, I managed to handle it eventhough he do comes in my mind here and there. And sometimes its hit hard make me feel uneasy. My heart feel heavy, missing him and everthing mixed up.

I once tried to contact him with purpose to ended things nicely. (since I thought that one of reasons why I can't forget him). It stop for awhile. But the peace just won't stay, and now I still keep thinking of him. Here and there. What I try to say is, its probably the best to embraced all memories you ever have with that person and face it head on. Cause, if you try to get away from it, it will leave a big hole of emptiness in your heart and you would feel longing fir the special affection you once had with him.

I wish the best for you:) and for me too.

Here I am again... Four years since I wrote this.

Since then I have done so much in my life, traveled to opposite ends of the earth, had a few affairs and have also fallen in love for real. It didn't work out but it felt wonderful and I want it more than ever...

And yet, I'm here because I googled "can't stop thinking about him". Why? Because it's true. I can't.

This is just ridiculous, I try to fight it all the time. But recently I did something else.

I stopped fighting it and started believing in love again and that for some reason I love this person.

We don't communicate and I don't know how we will find each other. But I will allow myself to love him and believe in that unbreakable love between soul mates. And someone will appear. I can no longer block my heart and am allowing myself to dream...

Hi, I came across your story and I know its a few years old, but I'm going through the same thing at the moment. Dreamt about this man two weeks prior to running into him and he was in town for business. The connection with him was very intense and I knew he was the one. I got scared and pushed him away, but like you. I am unable to stop thinking about him. I dated other men and it just doesn't work out. I want to forget about him but when I do, I dream about him. Can you tell me if you got your soulmate or how you moved on from him?

Thanks for all the comments everyone...

Well here I am, weeks later, thinking about him day and night...

Can I just trust that the universe or fate will somehow bring us together in it's own way in a manner I won't be expecting?

How lucky it is that I stumbled upon this story:) I say try to find him again <3 I actually met my now-fiance on this site about 3 years ago as a matter of fact:) We met on the chat room, and the second he said "Hey", I knew he was the one. Don't get me wrong, I was petrified to say the least. We were freshmen in highschool at the time, and I was always taught to never trust anyone online. However, I couldn't stop myself, we started talking, and we started talking on sites other than this one. I still remember the first time I saw his picture next to mine in our Messenger window, deep in my soul I just knew. Yeah, we're young, both about 18 now, but not long after we shared how we felt with eachother, we figured out we were Twin Flames. I had felt a presence that felt just like him with me since I was a young child and it was the same for him, and after having a nearly-constant stream of psychic connection between us for months, it just felt right.

But reading the comments, I sense that there is a soul contract there that is to be broken if you two don't start communicating with eachother. He is a soulmate, of course, but whether or not you two fulfill whatever agreement you have with eachother, it'll be resolved, whether in this life or a later one.

There's nothing wrong with believing in fairy tales <3 I say do what you can to reach out to him, and if he doesn't reach back out to you, just let what will be, be ❤ Things don't always work out the way we plan, but that doesn't mean we can't make life beautiful with our own fairy tales ❤ Just follow your heart on this one, that's all you ever need to do ❤ Love and Light:)

ladymsdiva. I think there are some things you can do. Firstly the bible and find God and Christ ask for forgiveness for you guilts. Guilt holds us back from a good life, and forgive yourself seriously.
You have devoloped a guilt complex and feel you owe someone something, YOU DON"T. When ever you think of some thought you don't like, don't dwell on it and just shake your head lighly as though to shake out the hair from your eyes, then quickly move to something more pleasant. ❤

And strange things happen.

Once I cursed him out loud and dropped a bottle of oil, making huge mess on the floor and glass shattered everywhere.

Just now, after I wrote that first message I went to put a dish in the oven, cursed him again and burnt my fingers. They hurt so much!

Thanks everyone so much for the responses. I'm dying on the inside and crying all the time. He pays no attention to me. He doesn't live near me either. Part of me thinks he knows there is a connection, and that's the part that believes in fairy tales.

I think that's my problem, that I believe in fairy tales. It is a habit I have because I've had a life full of pain and often escape in my own thoughts and disconnect from reality.

I prayed to God to release this person from my thoughts and move on with my life. I didn't use the candle as suggested, but I begged the spirits to help me let him go last year and I still ask this all the time. It tortures me, and I still keep trying to find a way to get this person out of my head.

Thanks again everyone. Taking the time to respond to this shows me that you are all very kind.

Thats the problem he's thinking about you and knows
You are thinking about him.
He's not serious!

There is a way you can cut the connection.
Its referred to as cutting soul ties.

Now from what you are saying is you feel in your
Heart of hearts that he is your soul mate.
And you have not left this belief behind.
Its like the saying the heart wants what the heart
Wants and believes.

On a different level most of us are attracted to people whom have power to hurt us. And his inability
To commit has sent you through some turmoil and would
Say some sleepless nights.

In this world we have soul mates.
Someone I know had 3 soul mates. They choose the first
Wish is not the best and hightest and will cause some
Aches and pains.
Others run into old life time soul mates, and the interaction is no more than a passing by of each other.
Many times we are only there to support the other and
Then move on. The real soul mate when we are ready is
Much better and has similar qualities you like and resonate with, but also always for growth for both people. As all human beings we have good days and bad days.

I had two copy cat soul mates I call them.
One I had to pay back an old life time and be there
Only for support as his mother died.
The 2nd was similar, but as I surrendered it to
Creator:"If he is not the one for me", over night
He had a change of heart and out the door he went.
My husband I have was the real stuff.
There has been acceptance and good times and times
We did not understand each other, but we have worked
Though.

The cutting of ties you can use a candle if your of a faith, put his name on the candle. And at this point just surrender him. This will take time to feel a full surrender, as its been 2 years But it moves within days. When you know you are ready to be ready.
Visualize a bridge. Both of you on each side of the bridge. Seeing a cord from your abdomin to his.
Send energy from you to him and see energy coming between you, listen to this higher energy.
See it as a fire/or angel of light with healing and allow it to cut the cord.
Use words I release you with love/light and cut this
Soul tie cord.
When the cords are cut. Its important to seal them send healing to yourself and him.

You will have to repeat this process a few times.

Now you will still have thoughts and this has to do with the layes that will eventually close in you energy field.
When these thoughts appear! Simply say I release you
With love and light, and receive the best and highest for me. You can also picture a shield bounching
Back feelings that come to you from that man.

When you on you bed at night picture all the synergetic connections and type of man you wish in
Your life whom is available and knows what he wants.

Perhaps it's intuition of some type. Just listen to the clear voice in your head, and do what feels right. If this has been going on for two years, consider making amends with him and go from there.

Perhaps you and him have some sort of connection, possibly a past life, or maybe something more. If you are constantly thinking of him, he may in turn be thinking of you as well. Like you are on the same telepathic wave length. Maybe you should try and get into contact with him?

No, he's still alive, and I feel like I'm talking to him all the time. Is this in my head, or is this a demon I need to exorcise?

he may have died after you cut off communication and now he is trying to contact you