I'm not sure where to start.
My close friend's father committed suicide almost five years ago, leaving behind his four children, including my friend. It's obviously been a very painful experience for everyone close to him.
I've been working on my psychic abilities and spirituality for at least a year now. I've been told by everyone who knows anything about the subject that I have an old soul, and that I'm a healer and a psychic medium.
Recently, I've been becoming even closer with my friend and he's been telling me things he's never told anyone before. We connect on a very deep level and I'm trying to just let it happen and not worry about it too much, because honestly there's a bit of a romantic tension between us as well. That's beside the point, though.
Today, I was on a road trip with my family, and out of nowhere, it became very apparent to me that my friend's father wanted to contact me, and pass on a message to my friend.
I just felt a very strong need to do something. I don't know how to explain it.
I've talked to my own deceased family members, like my grandpa. But I'm still working on feeling safe and confident with my spirituality and communicating with spirits.
When I got home, I asked my spirit guide about it and she told me my friend's father wants to talk to me and he has good intentions. I spoke to him and he told me how much he regrets taking his own life, and a bunch of stuff I won't get into because I don't feel like crying again. It was very emotional.
He doesn't know exactly what he wants me to tell my friend, because I told him clearly that I absolutely can't tell my friend that I spoke to his deceased father. Anything spiritual. I asked him if there was a way for me to pass along his message without hurting anyone or straight up telling my friend that I can contact spirits.
He said he'll contact me when he knows what to say.
Anyway, my problem is that I have no idea how to go about this. My friend harbors a lot of pain and grievance because of his father's suicide. I can't just say something about an awful, touchy subject like that. I can't do that to him.
I want to help my friend feel better and get some closure I know he craves. And I want to help his father's spirit finish some business so he can cross over and move on with his journey.
I want to help, but I feel like I'm interfering. It's not my place. I feel so awful for knowing this information and not being able to tell my friend, but I would also hate to tell him. Ugh. I don't know what to do. I don't even know what to think.
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks.
Sorry but I have different opinion.
First I can understand you motivation to help your friend, but there are other ways to help instead the way you think is the good one.
I don't know you age but as a teenager I strongly don't recommend to talk to his dad. One point is you cannot prove 100% is the same person, could be a spirit that is just messing around with your inner desire to help your friend. Second by the information available those who committed suicide takes more than just 5 years to heal from the suicide act to his spirit!
Take the following example prior to drive a car you have to learn all signs, study how to behave in traffic, after you master the theory you have assisted lesson with instructor, made an examination after several hours of practice and in the end you get your driver license. Here is more than the same process...
You know what happens when a kid get that a car and start driving around without proper training, it is dangerous and here is even more dangerous!
Now the part of helping his dads friend + friend family: pray, pray a lot for the good spirits to help your friends dad and the family of your friend! Second, you can always be there for your friend offering a shoulder and words of encouragement to support this pain and overcome it!
Again I don't know your age but I suggest avoid/postpone as much as possible any "practice" or "contact" with spirits (do to your age), I will recommend do volunteer work, help people, do charity and so one.
This will be enough to "hold" mediumship right now, but in the future all of this will come again and you will have to study and be prepared to use your mediumship to do good things and help other people.
For this preparation will demand a lot dedication and study, for this I recommend:
Http://www.ssbaltimore.org/PDF/Spirits.pdf
Http://www.ssbaltimore.org/PDF/Mediums.pdf
If need some help you can email me for more details: leonn [at] fluidfert.com
Good study!