Medium Dealing With Skeptical Husband

By arhea73
(1 stories) (1 posts) (the author is a middle age adult)
Date: 2014-05-19
Country: United States
State: Tennessee
Category: Psychic Medium

Since I was a child, I've been able to sense or feel spirits. There have been some experiences that I was frightened of, as well as some I chose to ignore, but after having several Reiki sessions throughout the years I'm no longer able to turn a blind eye to these experiences. I've finally realized that my gifts are something to embrace and strengthen. I've become a Reiki practitioner and have let some people know that I'm able to communicate with spirit.

A lot of people have encouraged my gifts and come to me often, but one very important person in my life has not. My husband has always lightly joked about my curiosity with psychics, mediums, Reiki, paranormal, etc. But ever since I've stepped into my gifts and put myself out there, he's started to take his joking a little too far.

There are times when I think I can share an experience with him or actually pass on some information from one of his deceased loved ones, but then something goes wrong. Initially, he seems to be listening. If it's about a spirit he knows, he'll even share some of his good memories of that person with me and verify that what I'm seeing is actually the person he remembers. I'll think, "wow, he's actually taking this in." Then BAM, the jokes begin, followed by skepticism that soon leads to ridicule. In the end, I am left standing there with hurt feelings because he takes it too far.

I believe that every person has a right to their beliefs and it's unjust to force your beliefs on another person. I'm not trying to do that with my husband. I'm just trying to share because I'm excited about my experiences. He gives no indication that he's uncomfortable. When the joking starts, I try to tell him we can change the subject, but by that point it's out of control.

I love this man. I've been with him over 20 years. He's my life. I don't want to have conflict in my marriage, but I also don't want to feel this way and I don't want to give up my gifts or hide them away. Is there anything I can do to find a happy medium? (no pun intended;-D)

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PathR (4 stories) (1274 posts)

10 years ago (2014-06-15)

An area to explore which may be of use is ask spirit and just observe if the readings made your husband feel uncomfortable and vulnerable. If this has been the case. It makes sense why he would jokingly use I'll humor. Which has nothing to do with you, but the message, too close to home. Just a defense to play to it down.

PsychicJR (8 stories) (541 posts)

10 years ago (2014-06-08)

Think of it as this it is a scientific fact energy cannot be created or destroyed and what makes you function the soul and that's energy and psychics can pick up on the energy better than the non psychics and when you read him you read his energy (I wrote this just if you husband likes science but same goes with spirits their an energy can't be created nor destroyed)

arhea73 (1 stories) (1 posts)

10 years ago (2014-06-03)

Thank you all for responding. Things have gotten better with my husband. He even allowed me to do a reiki session for him. I feel he's very uncomfortable with my gifts and ended up lashing out during this particular incident. Since then I think he takes it in stride if anything comes up. I'm not going to share as much and be considerate of his feelings. Maybe in time he will come around. If not I know he loves me even though he's unsure of my abilities with the metaphysical. I'd love to be able to share fully but I'm okay as long as I'm not ridiculed for my beliefs. Appreciate the responses from all!

gracgraco (2 stories) (8 posts)

11 years ago (2014-05-22)

sorry your husband like this my mom accepts it and goes with it. She even jokes about it. I have a brothers who don't believe or like to make fun but once I show them pictures up my younger brother like why is it all was happening to you. Or he big disbeliver but I ingore him and keep strong try face my fears. Cause if he can't believe or accept me for who I am or what happens then I don't need him around. But I think you should try talk to your husband and let him understand its part of you and you can't change who you are.

PathR (4 stories) (1274 posts)

11 years ago (2014-05-21)

My story my husband supports me in my studies and practices of healing. But your husband did not stop you when studying or practicing Reiki.

My husband is very psychic, possibly the most gifted person I have ever known or read about.

He has his moments when he looks at me like I am bonkers when I tell him certain experiences or get into a conversation. I guess I am like you as I enjoy having someone to open up to.

Sometimes he chides me about the money spent on school. Tells me I should stop being the student.
In his heat of hearts he would prefer to spend money on holidays

I agree with AnneV that diverting your heart to not interact as a Medium is a good idea. Possibly put it out to spirit refuse to channel until they deal with your hubby if he is truly open. Ask them if he finally has a complete turn around and is finally opens that they must give you proof upon proof that you can open your heart without being hurt. But I get this feeling your husband is giving off, he feels very uncomfortable and vulnerable, this I'll joking is a defense mechanism.

If you have a talk. You can ask him?
Then when time is right tell how this effects you.
Hopefully both of you can come to an understanding.

carriwill (8 stories) (98 posts)

11 years ago (2014-05-21)

I am a christian who has some of these abilities. Here is an example. When I was married. I had a good job so did my husband. Well I dreamed that his father was going to die. I dreamed of the nurses and doctors standing around his father John. Then I dreamed of the funeral. Well I told my husband and he thought I was crazy. Well he left me later and ran off with another woman. Now this woman is a psychic also. But yes his father did die a year later. John his father dying went exactly like the dream. Now he does not make fun of me. We are good friends now and he wants to marry me again. But no now. He has too many medical bills. I think now he believes in psychic abilities. My ex husband has seen orbs at times in his psychic gf. House. They have split up now. But now I think he believes. Before he used to call me crazy Ann.

PathR (4 stories) (1274 posts)

11 years ago (2014-05-20)

My story my husband supports me in my studies and practices of healing. But your husband did not stop you when studying or practicing Reiki.

My husband is very psychic, possibly the most gifted person I have ever known or read about.

He has his moments when he looks at me like I am bonkers when I tell him certain experiences or get into a conversation. I guess I am like you as I enjoy having someone to open up to.

Sometimes he chides me about the money spent on school. Telling me I should stop being the student.

In his heat of hearts he would prefer to spend money on holidays instead of my classes. Yet like your husband he allowed me to continue in courses for psychic development.

I agree with AnneV that diverting your heart to not interact as a Medium is a good idea. Possibly put it out to spirit refuse to channel until they deal with your hubby. Ask them if he finally has a complete change of mind and is finally opens that they must give you proof upon proof that you can open your heart without being hurt.

Spirit cares about all areas of our lives. Other times we only commit and change comes through time and patience. With human beings as said just telling the truth to our companion and placing restrictions is a good compromise.

AnneV (4 stories) (1064 posts) mod

11 years ago (2014-05-20)

There are some marriages where some aspects of it cannot be shared with the partner. In your case, it's being a psychic medium. In others, it might be sports, a graphic job (homicide investigator as an example) and so on. This may just be an element of your life that you share with people on-line, clients and open minded friends.

It is indeed hurtful to be laughed at by someone so important. I sometimes go through this with my own husband. When I have an issue, I never raise my voice and simply tell him what's bothering me. His mode has always been that if you need to get a point across, bellow it out. Unfortunately he sees my calm discussion as not something as serious. You may be in the same boat where he's just not taking your words of hurt seriously. To get across to my husband, I'll instead make it seem more of an ordeal by leading up to the discussion with, "We need to have a serious discussion" and make sure distractions are off, we're facing each other, and he's actually sitting there with some sense of expectation. Doing discussions like this in a car or over dinner might not suffice.

And this may just ultimately mean you don't discuss this aspect of your life with him. I hope there are many other things that keep you close and happy together. It's hard for us to have it all, you know? Some men also struggle with discussing things of a deeper nature. To discuss spirits is to discuss the dead, and that leads to their own mortality. That's scary stuff. Most would rather tune out and watch sports, go to work, and save that stuff for church or on their death bed. I am personally very interested in the near death experience and do a lot of research on it, but frankly, my husband has no interest in that, and I'm okay with that. It's just part of me that stays with me.

There are many great groups on-line. Perhaps you can find one that resonates with you. It sounds like you're doing fantastic with your Reiki.

Hope this helps and thanks so much for sharing.
Anne

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