My Dead Grand Uncle's Visits For Help

By adorablyblue
(1 stories) (2 posts) (the author is a young adult)
Date: 2009-05-27
Country: Canada
Category: Visions / Trances / Altered States

It started with a dream. I have had quite a few dreams with recently deceased relatives/close friends actually, but the most recent was very emotional for me. My Grand Uncle passed away 4 or 5 days ago, and his funeral was today. 3 days ago he came to me in a dream, but I had never seen him before so I didn't actually know it was him (although I wouldn't have recognized him). I was asleep on my mom's couch, and he appeared cold, burned, and very much dead. I only found out today that he was cremated, along with the rest of my family.

He came to me last night (actually around 2:30 a.m. This morning) but I was very frightened. There was only one little lamp on, and I saw a shadow of a head on a nearby wall. A few moments later, he was unscrewing the light in the lamp but stopped when I said he was scaring me. I asked him to give me a sign that he was still in the room with me a few moments later, and he began moving a few little knic-knacs my mom keeps on a shelf, like he was trying to get to a picture of my grandparents (his brother and sister-in-law) which was behind the candles he was moving. After that, I heard him pacing the floor beside me, going back and forth from our fireplace and a nearby door. I asked him to give me a sign, if it was my grand uncle John, and to move the door of a cabinet that was in the room. Needless to say, the door moved. Alot. I freaked out, and told him to go, that I was scared. I heard him then walk to the fireplace, and he disappeared into the embers of the unlit fireplace.

The next day, my mother was cleaning, and she went to the lamp he was playing around with, and told me the light was unscrewed.

I don't think my grand uncle wanted to be cremated, and he came to me to help him.

I feel terrible for not helping him. Did I do the right thing by telling him to go? I couldn't actually see him besides part of a shadow, I could only hear him, so does that make it less of a paranormal experience?

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Guessing1111 (33 posts)

15 years ago (2009-06-07)

I'm going to go against the grain a little. I don't think people who have passed have trouble moving on or going into the light. I might be wrong. I just think that sometimes, for whatever reason, they try to get back here to tell us something or let us know that they existed or whatever. It's very scary for us sometimes. He did leave when she asked. That is sweet. I hope that she leaves a flower and he sees it somehow.

Guessing1111 (33 posts)

15 years ago (2009-06-05)

I've heard about spirits who "don't move on." I don't quite get that. There are bad things, but they aren't people, living or deceased. They are other beings. And I do think that those who have "passed" - died - can come back to visit. At least, I've had it happen. Not a lot. To be fair, it's hard for us to get to their realm also. I do think it's helpful to pray for them. It's also helpful to pray for people still here. I don't understand that either, but it seems logical. There are several things that I don't understand, quantum physics, astro engineering, brain chemistry, kids.

ostara8 (124 posts)

15 years ago (2009-06-01)

oh, btw... You can tell if a spirit has not crossed over, because they appear in forms such as he did, he was not tryin g to scare you, notice that he left as soon as you said you were scared etc. I think he came to you because you are able to see him. He is very confused, I agree with that lovely lady, and I agree with the other stuff she said also. Also, the last thing his spirit remembers is the fire, so he appeared burnt. I know it would look horrible, but try to look past it. He means you no harm, that is apparent:)

ostara8 (124 posts)

15 years ago (2009-06-01)

c all him back, he will hear you. Something had prevented him from moving on into the light. This is either he does not know he is dead, or he has some unfinished business that he would appreciate your help with, or he for some reason is not ready to go... He is upset. Call him back, comfort him, and ask him what you could do for him. Do not be afraid to speak your truth to those who may not believe, but still, use your own gut instincts on what to do. He really needs your help to cross. Tell him also that his life has ended, his spirit chose to go back home, so he must go to the light where he will be home, much happier, healthier, and everything will be ok, and he can visit from there any time he chooses. You are very psychic. And that is wonderful:)

Guessing1111 (33 posts)

15 years ago (2009-05-30)

I love reunions. Family matters. There are bad things of course, but I like to think positive.

adorablyblue (1 stories) (2 posts)

15 years ago (2009-05-29)

Thank you for the reassurance, Guessing1111. I do believe he was a strong person from what my dad (my grand uncle's nephew) has told me. He was in the military for quite some time, and a very hard worker.
Regretably, I didn't know him well, or even at all, but I wish I had. A flower is a really nice thought, and I think I'm going to do that, because I never had the chance to give him anything when he was alive. Thank you so much.
I have only seen a couple pictures of him, and my relatives and friends that knew him said he was a very kind and friendly man. If I do see him again, I definately will try and remember him in this way, too! Thanks again.

adorablyblue (1 stories) (2 posts)

15 years ago (2009-05-29)

Thanks a lot, Anne for your help in trying to figure out my grand uncle's gestures. I understand a little bit more about life after death, and I do hope if I encounter him or perhaps other relatives again that I won't be as shaken and hopefully gain something besides fear from my experience!

Guessing1111 (33 posts)

15 years ago (2009-05-29)

This is not something I've experienced, but in case he get's back this is my advice, picture him at his best, most handsome and friendly, and try to see him in that way. You might put a flower in the two places that he touched in your room. If you tell him that seeing him scares you, he probably won't show himself again, or be able to, but it would be a kind gesture.

Guessing1111 (33 posts)

15 years ago (2009-05-29)

Of course you did nothing wrong. Perhaps he just wanted you to know that he cared about you, family. Perhaps he thought that you, of all the family, would do what you are doing, trying to figure it all out. It was probably meant to be a sweet gesture, but I would have freaked a little too probably. It was probably not easy for him to reach you, and I don't understand that, but I don't think that it is. He went to a lot of trouble to make contact, perhaps for a last time. Perhaps he wasn't quite able to control how he appeared to you, since he's a spirit now, and your mind filled out what it thought he should look like - it's a different way of seeing. These are guesses, but I've thought about them a little over the years, so my best guesses. I do think that he was a strong person to be able to appear to you. Was he a strong person, in general?

AnneV (4 stories) (1064 posts) mod

15 years ago (2009-05-28)

Remember that your uncle was already dead when he was cremated and it's unlikely he would have been cremated without his express wishes. By that age in life we usually have wills and such so I wouldn't worry about that.

When people die, it takes up to a week for them to shed some of their etheric matter. It's not uncommon in that week to see them around the house, especially if you're sensitive. They are confused, disoriented and sometimes don't even know they've died (which is why he was unscrewing the bulb and wandering around).

People are in for a big shock because all their life they are taught that it's a straight shot to heaven or hell and it's not. Some do ascend to higher planes (or lower) but many just sit around in the mid astral planes until they figure out what's going on. Most are greeted by relatives and helped out. I know because I see them in my travels.

You did exactly what you should have done. If you're frightened and can't handle it, then ask them to leave. Next time maybe you won't be. Go easy on yourself, it's not often we see and talk to deceased relatives!

Anne

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