I've experienced deja vu since I was about 5. I would watch events unfolding and realize I had experienced them before. I learned as a teen that this was deja vu and not something everyone else experienced. I played games and would try to recollect the deja vu as soon as I saw it unfolding and was able to stay a few seconds to minutes ahead of the actual event. I have a daughter and son. When my daughter was about 10, she started telling me how she would experience something that had already happened. Hmmm, is this skill hereditary?
As I got older, I found I got instant reactions to people I met. A sense of whether they were good or bad. I thought it was intuition but found I would get a sense of someone being a "bad" person when no one thought that and there was no logical reason for me to either. Later, sometimes weeks or months, an event would prove me correct and usually everyone else would be shocked.
Most recently, in the last 4 to 5 years, I started getting strong feelings or even thoughts that popped in my head like I failed a test, date for prom, fight with a friend, or just feelings of sadness, confusion, listlessness, happiness, etc. I would pick up my daughter or get a call and the thoughts or emotions would be from something that happened with her. I guess they're premonitions? I seem to "feel" other people's emotional states but nothing like I do with my daughter. I do not get the intense sensing with my son or husband. She really affects me with highs and lows. I'm like an emotional meter for my daughter and this is a real roller coaster with a teen.
Recently, I've had some very strong, negative feelings surrounding her. Through subtle questions, I was able to figure out she was fine but the feelings persisted to the point of making me sick to my stomach and extremely listless. I starting noticing that whenever her boyfriend came over the feelings increased. I started to think he had done something and finally talked to my daughter but she did not see any changes going on.
When I get these feelings, they clear up in minutes or a few days. They can be sad or happy. This was the first time I have had anything so intense and long lasting (over a week). I've lost 10 pounds from lack of sleep and appetite. Each day I seemed to hone in a little closer to the cause but cannot pinpoint "what" it is. It's gone from my daughter, to her boyfriend, to someone or thing negative around him. I just feel someone bad or wrong is around him and of course what can I say without coming across as a nut. I'm also shocked that this is now occurring with him and can only think that it is channeling through my daughter. Because it is all so vague, I've stopped saying anything to my daughter so not to stress her too. But my daughter has pointed out that I get these feelings and I'm never wrong. Fortunately, it seems to be easing off and I am less stressed but still very preoccupied.
So what do I do with such vague details? Just tell people to be careful? My friend thinks I need to sharpen this skill so that I can be more effective. I would love to know how to do this only because I seem to be getting more sensitive not less. And now with this experience, I feel very vulnerable as it has been very consuming and I have no way to stop it or understand it. So I feel the best thing is to understand it. It has been a very out of control experience. Does anyone know how to get a handle on this?
In response to your question: 'So how do I know if a random thought is popping into my head or an actual vision?' and 'I only seem to know AFTER it is validated and some have not been'... This is very common. It happens over and over, until you think, how many more times, but with patience the learning points unfold very clearly, as your Master Guide is helping you to learn to recognise what is a vision through simple repetition, but with similar images/overlapping themes, new images and the same themes or totally different images and themes... There will usually be repeated symbols or themes, even if only small on some occasions, so you can see the thread that is part of the build up of knowledge, like having a repertoire of dreams... Make sure you record them, won't you? This is really the only way you can stand back from them and be objective, so you can clearly draw out their themes and structure and not get swamped in the sheer number of dreams you are having and not see anything clearly, hence feel you are not learning anything from them.
As I say the repetition factor is to get you to be able to recognise what you are being shown and start to understand it before it has happened. I am a naturally impatient person and this was why I failed to see this lesson for a while. When I eventually did I realise the significance of the information, so I didn't dismiss it any more as something random.
The other thing is: you really need to focus on how you felt when you saw something - this sounds so simple, but in reality takes a lot of practice to notice... I used to blindly blunder through my life, now I take the time to notice what is really going on around me, the bird sat on my hedge, the insect crawling across the floor in a busy high street - I do keep my eyes on the traffic and cyclists!:-) - but what I am saying is: when we feel ordinarily, we usually have twenty other things going on including in our heads at the same time...! But to notice your psychic feelings, which are on a higher level than that means tuning in to your higher consciousness..., but before I start sounding lofty and pretentious, it is the connection with your Master Guide - seen or unseen - that grows this aspect of your psychic-emotional pallet. I call it listening with my emotions, to what the image is telling me... Images are actually rarely random, but when they are fuzzy or even seem nonsensical, that in itself is often useful information about the state of mind you are in.
Ultimately, evidence that it is not just random is fact that it should be 'become clear to you' - the image may look hazy, grainy, may even seem unclear - that does not mean the message is random. Random take on a similar argument to coincidence...! Oh boy, not going there too much, but nothing is without reason, analytical and boring as that may sound.
The clear part is that 'lightbulb' moment when you say something like: "Ah - I get it... God that's what it meant!" Yes, this may occur after the event, and is often frustrating... It was to me also but it is a necessary stage in development, before you get to the knowing and understanding the images/information and being able to act on them before the event, say if it is a life-saving piece of information or an avoid-danger premonition. In short, it takes practice... Sorry if that sound patronising, it's not meant to - but it points to two things in the main: patience is critical and TRUSTING your gut instincts, so they become one with the information coming through in your dreams and visions.
Sometimes we also dismiss things through lack of confidence in our ability and ourselves to recognise something that often turns out to be more obvious than we realised. As we grow in confidence, that confidence allows us to blossom so we can assert prior to the event happening, what we have seen... That's why I think writing things down is so important... Because each time we do, we provide proof to ourselves of what we knew before the event and stop that all important doubting that keeps us from believing we do understand and know what it is we have prior sensed or scene.