I Am Not Saying There Is And I Am Not Saying There Is Not

But let just say for arguments sake that there were such things as ghosts.

Here's a question for you. Do you think they could come back to tell you that your time alive is up?

Only my mother has taken to wearing a Red Rag on her wrist. Why. Because three years back one of her sisters died. This sister was her favourite and they brought each other up as they lived with one other sister (still alive), and their single father until he died according to my mum when she was 15 years old.

When the sisters grew, my mum immigrated then sent for the sister she recently loss. So, they spent over 50 years near each other in a foreign country. They married and were by and large very happy with life.

My Aunt's husband died. And it was an unwritten pact between the sisters they if either husband died first they would spend the rest of their lives with the other one.

My mum being the younger one, suddenly backed out of the deal. And her husband, flatly refused to have two mature women in the house. Think he thought he would be out numbered too often. Whatever his reason he kept on at my mother until my Aunt moved in with myself and my husband. They returned to her native homeland to die at my nans home.

My mum, could have but did not attend the funeral. Since then she keeps 'seeing,' my Aunt all over her home. She is so worried by it she now wears a red rage to ward her off.

In my mum's belief system. Seeing a dead relative is usually a precursor to that relative collecting you from this life. My mum is elderly and has had health problems. Also, I am certain she feels guilty for not standing up to her husband and insisting that my Aunt lived with them.

I know how she feels. As it was explained to me that when she was younger although they looked after each other the younger one did most of the domestic chores whilst the older ones worked for a living. Hence my mother did not want to be fetching and carrying for my Aunt again. When I had her living with me I noticed that every time, I sat down for more than 5 minutes she would insist I did something or fetch her something. I casually asked if this was how her father and older relatives treat her and my mum when they were younger and she confirmed it.

So, I can get why my mother acceded to her husband's wishes. But now she thinks she is being punished for it. And that my Aunt has come to collect her.