Empath In A Hailstorm

I read your story and said wow! That is because I have the same problem. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and have had pain for years. I am sick of doctors and test and refuse to go anymore. I get depressed often also. I have odd people show up in my life and I fix stuff for them. Sometimes I help with emotional stuff, monetarily, and random other things.

I can't stand going in crowds anymore and can't be around negative people at all. There are people that can actually suck the energy from you. I prefer a select few and many animals around me.

I have been able to control it better lately. I have what I call the "shield."
This is what I put up around me like a turtle shell. I pray before I go out each day and then when I see someone negative their bad energy bounces off of me. It is weird because if you do this you can actually see the negative person's reaction sometimes. It could be they just totally dislike you without cause or they want to be by you to literally get energy from you.
I always call upon the Angel Gabriel and imagine an image of Jesus to help with this process. You can sometimes in your mind see a white glow when doing.

I believe another way to help is to go volunteer and help charities and animals. Then you know your energy is being directed to the deserved ones.

I meditate often to also focus. I see many visions in meditations and like yourself see many peoples pain but I pray for them. I have new clarity now and the world is very different.

I think you should be true to yourself and surround yourself with true friends. You will still get worn out by this stuff somedays and feel the weight of the world. On those days just rest. I look at artwork, watch the sunset, listen to my horses eat their hay, and see the beauty of a bird flying. Sometimes I cry when doing this but heck we aren't all perfect. Then go to bed and ask for some good dreams and then usually the next day will be better.

Many blessings fellow empath.

Yes, Only a few times though. Not very often. I get your pain. Your not alone

I have added my email to my profile if anyone feels to need to contact me or just talk about anything in particular. Sharing information is a great thing, I believe we are all in the same boat right now and there is a lot of change going on. I'm more than happy to do anything I can to help.

Kitti,

I'm glad all the advice here has helped you and thanks for keeping us posted.

Going outside and re-charging on a regular basis is a wonderful idea. Even if you just take the time to stop at the grocery store floral department and take a few deep breaths...It's all about just stopping to smell the flowers sometimes. Just take a moment for yourself... Breath deep and let any emotions/energies that are not yours 'flow out' as you exhale.

Nagath_Sun has offered some really good advice as well... If you have anymore questions, please feel free to ask... There are ways to shield your home as well as yourself. I wish I knew more about auras, but that has never been a 'gift' of mine.

Please keep us updated and ask any questions that may occur to you.

Respectfully,

Rook

She probably did, and you probably helped her greatly. I dream about things like that, too. I'm also good at implanting ideas into people's heads in a sense, so the reverse of empathy. In fact, I had a nightmare and reached out to my fiance who called me because he got the random idea that I needed him. I also dreamed that my friend needed help and the next day I found out she had been in a car crash on her way to another state and there was no one around to help her for a few hours.

The e-mail I use for this site only is on my profile and I'm always ready to talk if you need it. It'd be nice to have a fellow empath to talk to. =)

That is horrible that art and music was banned from your childhood... Do you have vision problems that are very bad?

I have loved art ever since I was old enough to hold a crayon, and I think this is why I see colors so easily. It's so odd though, it's like I'm seeing things with a different "eye", not my physical ones. This is the eye that is referred to as the "third eye", I think?

I'm wondering what else I might begin to see. I'm beginning to think that maybe as a child I blocked some things out that I was afraid of. I remember telling my mom once, that when I closed my eyes I saw pretty patterns in many different colors. Once I was in school and learned about the eye, I didn't even consider that what I saw when I was little was in the least bit odd (because of the way the eye works, sometimes "colors" can be seen against a closed eyelid). It was only a few days ago when I was focusing on chakras and energies, that I suddenly realized what I am briefly, faintly seeing NOW are the same images and patterns I saw a long time ago.
Weird, yes, but kind of exciting too!
Would you mind emailing me? I would love to talk to you more. You have helped me so much.:)

Sounds like you're doing very well. Yes, there are many layers to auras, it sounds like you have a very open mind. I can only see the first which might be described as slightly black lines within an inch of a persons skin. The colored layer you see is the 2nd, or emotional layer. I'm rather jealous actually, I've been working for a few months to try and see more. I also have extremely poor vision right now, which I've come to learn is linked to the third eye as well. I was basically forbidden art and music as a child too.

Giving yourself some time to recharge sounds like a good idea however. Just make sure and keep yourself protected, as you progress you may see other things. I believe the golden rule is always radiate good intentions, even if you see something that scares you. Positive energies are the more powerful ones.

And the blue shield is the one I like to use for sleeping. I imagine the field spreading out from me to fill the room, or if I'm feeling strong enough the entire building/area. I find it rather curious that if you're really feeling/seeing it you can actually only push it so far before you start feeling some resistance. I'm unsure how to describe it further, it is just something I've learned on my own. Since my vision, and even my ability to visualize is so bad, I use more of a Kinesthetic (feel based) sense. You may also find you can hear sounds that can't be heard with the ear.

Nagath, I have to thank you SO MUCH... I went out in public yesterday and put up my shield before I walked out of the house. I imagined it a sky blue color, because I have always loved looking up at the sky, and I have very positive emotions associated with it. (Is that a good idea?) I imagined what Rook said, myself with a sky blue bubble around me of light energy. It seemed really pretty in my mind:) I am absolutely amazed at the effect it had. I paid attention to my blue shield when I felt like I might be picking up on something. I didn't have hardly any hurt or emotion that wasn't mine all day! I feel so totally new.

Since I was paying attention to colors, I seemed to pick up on auras around people - it's like a different dimension of sight.
There was this man in front of me at the bank, and he seemed to have a darkish green purple color all around him. I was standing waiting on my friend anyway, so I let my shield down, (I was kind of afraid to do this) and I tried to take the ugly color away from him and send white, light energy, like I've read about. It's like I caught his attention for a minute, like he was startled, but then he went back to his business. It was as if WHAM, all of a sudden I got hit with a huge energy drain - I'm not sure if he was very tired (that was the sense I got) or if I was just exhausted from using up my energy to send white light to him. I had to lean on the counter for a good minute before I put my shield up again!

This was a really intense experience, and I think I might have really seen what is going on, in situations when I absorb energy. Do you think I finally saw it clearly? Do you guys see colors around people? I do see yellow as very happy. The only other color I've really noticed is blue, and the person seemed quiet and very deep in thought.

Nagath - the colors of the shields you use is fascinating. I want to put up a shield in my room, so when I sleep I won't pick up on the other people's emotions in my house. I might not want to keep this forever, but I think to heal myself a little, and let my body and mind rest, I need it for a while. What color do you recommend? Putting up shields is easier than I thought it would be, and I love the idea that shields are only limited to what you imagine they can do.:)

Rook, your visualization techniques worked wonders. I just imagine myself growing roots when I get overloaded, and casting all the emotions away, and it works. I have always loved big open spaces (maybe because there are fewer people?) and have felt more comfortable in nature than anywhere else. Should I make a habit of going outside regularly, someplace in the grass in an open space, to deeply cleanse my energy? Everything is so much clearer to me when I'm in a field or by trees, for some reason. Do you feel "earth" energy? Isn't that what I'm supposed to be drawing up through my root chakra to ground myself?

Skyslide - people do just sort of find me. It's kind of funny isn't it, when you turn around and all of a sudden someone is telling you his/her life story?

I do feel like my little sister needed me. And I think I got to her. I felt like I was there. I dream about her all the time, just last night in fact. She seems really confused, and all I want to do is be there for her in any way I can. Since I can't be there physically, I think some part of me is determined to be there emotionally, thus the constant dreams, connections, etc.

Again, it is so wonderful to have you all to talk to - you have completely changed my life and given me light and a lot of excitement.
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Empathy is hard to control, I think I am an empath as well. I've found it easier to handle if you consciously remind yourself it's not your pain or emotions. It may even help to mentally point out the person whose emotions you feel. Whatever you do, don't ignore it. The subconscious mind doesn't like that one bit. If you want to help people, go into the medical field. It may be easier for you to diagnose physical issues and maybe even mental ones. You could also do subtle things like a random "oh, you look beautiful, and thin too, where did you get that?" to the woman who feels uncomfortable in the dress that "magically shrunk two sizes" or write an encouraging note on a napkin to the man who just doesn't see the point. I prefer the subtle ones, but whichever you like better.

I think your sister was reaching out to you, though. You picked up on it because she was feeling terribly alone and searching for someone who cares.

Kitti,

You asked about 'Casting away' the 'extra' emotions you take on. For me this took the longest time to learn... At first I used 'grounding techniques' going barefoot in the grass and just letting it all drain out of me...I've gotten to the point that I can 'visualize' the emotions that are not mine 'going to ground'. Once I 'see' the 'connection' to ground I 'send' the extra energy (emotions) along that connection, into the ground and away from me.

Shields can be whatever you wish them to be... Light or surrounding Bubbles I believe are the most common...I've used 'music' to create a shield. If just learning how to do this pick an 'image' that's easy to 'hold' in your mind... It doesn't matter if it's you surrounded by light or a bubble of some sort... Then focus your thoughts on 're-enforcing' this image with positive energy... Focus on nothing being able to get through except what you want to get through.

I hope that is of some kind of help, I can go into more detail if you would like, please just ask and keep us updated.

Respectfully,

Rook

Rook pretty much gave you a perfect answer on helping others. People can somehow tell what you are on some unconscious level. I've had tellers at the store lines and other people randomly open up to me about how their life is going. Usually, people will find you, or you'll see someone who could use some cheering up and won't be able to help yourself from making them smile. Mostly it comes naturally, just try to remind yourself not to be too shy.

Meditation can help you get in touch with your inner self, grounding is a bit different in that it helps put you in there here and now. Since you've read a bit about the chakras, think of it in terms of energy levels. When people typically think of meditation we think of the upper chakras, such as the heart, brow, and crown. These are more spiritual in nature.

Grounding is basically a meditation focused on your root chakra, which is your connection to the Earth. This can make you more normal you might say, or more "Just you". It puts you in the "here" and "now". I guess it's kind of like switching gears.
Also, yes the first chakra is associated with security and safety.

For the colors of shields, I hate to get into specifics, because to some degree thinking only a certain thing works is limiting. Normally I use colors like White, Blue, Green, Gold, and Rose. They do have emotional associations, though it can be more complicated than a few words can describe. Blue is peace, serenity, calmness, I actually use this to help my wife sleep sometimes or calm my pets. White can be purity, but also power and confidence, which is why I like this for protection. Green and Rose are both love, though it's hard to describe the difference between the two. Gold is somewhat close to white, but is cleansing and often used for healing or removing negative energies.

There are probably some more things you could try, I haven't yet tried these. Red could be for anger or passion. Yellow could possibly be an aura of happiness? So to speak these aren't necessarily just personal shields, you can expand it to fill a room (possibly more), or direct intent in a certain direction. This is getting a bit too detailed for now, just remember to keep an open mind. Feel free to try things, and see how it affects the world around you. Of course, avoid negative things and try to stay positive!

Last thoughts, focus on keeping a white shield for now that will keep negative emotions out, and allow good in. Meditate on that visual and know that as it fades, it is still with you. This should help greatly with any anxiety and fatigue from being around groups of people. Good luck.

Nagath_Sun, I am so glad you joined - and it makes me feel wonderful knowing that someone who is big and tough can have these sensitivities as well! Thank you so much for responding! As you probably can imagine, I'm small, quiet and was very sheltered as a child, so my first instinct was to think maybe I was just not used to constant input from the world around me. Little did I know that I was very spiritual and could see things from a very young age that others didn't. It's hard to realize that I am NOT crazy sometimes, and I am so glad to have found this website to help me with this!

I have also tried grounding as you suggested, and it really did help. Aren't grounding techniques supposed to help you with security and safety? It helped me find myself, which is hard to do when you involuntarily "are" so many other people at once.

Meditation works wonders too. I love to paint and work with colors, so mental images come naturally to me and I think this might help eventually with associating an emotional intent with a certain color, such as the shield you suggested. What is your favorite technique for putting up a shield? Do you have a favorite color to use? I know blue and white are traditional, can other colors be used? Thank you so much!:)

J-torrez - it's hard talking about this to others isn't it? Especially when they are skeptical of what you know is true... I'm lucky to have someone who believes me and supports me through everything. It helps so much to talk. If you talk about it more, do you have fewer negative experiences emotionally? I want to talk about it, but like you said I feel stupid, or like no one will believe me even if I trust them. I have a history of not being very trusting, which doesn't help.

Rook - that is EXACTLY the answer I was looking for. That is what I want to know more about, because I'm not sure I can learn about protecting myself without learning how to heal as well. It's something I just kind of instinctively feel is intertwined. When you say "cast away", how do you visualize it? Is there anything you have found particularly helpful in learning to do this? Did it take you a long time to learn to cast away all the stored emotion you had? In my case, can I do the same with my physical pain?
I'm asking lots of questions! ^_^ I'm still very new to this. I cannot say enough how much I appreciate all of you; I feel like I've got a support network keeping me strong now!

Kitti,

You have been given some really good advice on how to shield yourself and about meditaion... Grounding yourself and the like.

But your last question... Has not been answered yet... You asked...

"Most importantly, how do I learn to use what I have just discovered to help the people around me?"

In some cases if all you do is offer a smile and a wave it could have a Great effect on the person you are 'feeling' things from. Other times a friendly 'out of the blue' Hello, how are you? Breaks the ice... And may be enough to help the person.

Other times you may need to 'take on' some of the 'emotional load' they are experiencing... If you do this the grounding techniques already mentioned come in real handy in allowing you to 'ease the burden' of those feeling 'overwhelmed' by their own emotions. You 'drain' some of 'them' off and send them into the ground... Allowing you to 'cast' them away from yourself and taking some of the 'overlaod' off the other persons 'shoulders' so to speak.

Each person is different... If they are people you know, engage them in conversation... You will find that they feel comfortable around you and will soon 'open up'and talk to you about what ever you may be feeling 'from them. It's harder when you 'pick up' on a strangers emotions, they are harder to approach... But the 'techniques' I mentioned previously seem to work in those situations.

You may also find that people are just attracted to you... That they want to 'talk' and tell you 'everything'. In those cases, let them... It allows them to 'vent' and allows you to 'use' your Gift.

I've done this for many, many years... Being an Empath is not always easy, but I wouldn't 'trade'it for anything. Ask any questions you may have, I'll be happy to help.

Respectfully,

Rook

Hi Kitti, you motivated me to join this site finally so I could reply. I came here a few months ago feeling the exact same way you do now, and I recieved bit of advice via email.

I had felt this way for years, but it took years to finally admit to myself I definitely could percieve something most people do not. I would have panic attacks almost in crowded areas especially if the emotions there were particularly negative or chaotic. I'm a big tough guy by the way.

Meditation is a good step as suggested, this will help energize you, but there are some other things to look into.

Look into shielding yourself, a good one is called "Tower of Light". Googling that should give you a description. It is good to note however you can make these shields do just about whatever you can imagine. So imagine yourself surrounded by blue or white light, and that it will only let positive feelings through, and that this shield stays with you. After a bit of practice you won't even need this daily. This can even have a positive influence on those around you.

Another thing is grounding. If you end up feeling too spaced out, imagine yourself growing roots into the ground. This is very calming and centering.

Finally, spending some time in nature will help recharge you as well. Certainly as an Empath you can connect with others to help them through emotional traumas, but you need to be the one to choose when to do this, so that you don't run around feeling wore out all of the time. Best of luck!

To tell you the truth it was not easy. First I began talking to the people I trusted the most and telling them about my abilities. At first they did not believe me but soon found out I was telling the truth. Eventually I trusted them with my problems though I did feel pathetic for doing this. Yet I felt it was not good for one to carry such a burden I was dying because of that. I guess I just wanted at least one person to know who I was. Eventually I began to cry as I was telling them what I had gone through they comforted me and though I felt dumb I also felt better. I still feel people illnesses sometimes but not as often as I use to. You should try this. 😁

Thank you! I have been trying meditation, and learning about the seven chakra system. It helps quite a bit, and I also do yoga every day.
I also did what you did - just never showed any emotion except happy. How did you go about learning to accept and show your emotions...? 😊

I had those sort of problems since I was 8 years old and the way I dealt with it was not the best but I did not cause others to worry. What I did is that I trained my self to not show the emotions of sorrow, all I could express was joy and happiness. The only time you would see trace of anger in me was when I was extremely angry, yet they did not know this. I also learned to ignore pain. Now later on in life though I decided that I wanted to be able to express emotions and I tell you for now I am loving it. I enjoy feeling sorrow, anger and pain it has helped me feel human. Being happy is great but it seems I appreciate it more that I use to. Just think of it this way what would joy be without sorrow, would it exist?

As to you feeling sick all the time the best ting to do is ignore the symptoms just pretend they are not their and they will go away. You can also try meditation it seems to help a lot. Good luck and I hope you feel better.